Quirky Differences.
We all are different, have you noticed?
Awe silly question right. Its pretty obvious. We as people are uniquely different from each other. But not all of us get along, but we each have those people in our lives that we connect well with, sometimes so well you laugh. Like my friend Katie and I, we think the same way in so many areas, we just have to laugh and with the differences that we have, we smile cause that makes us unique and adds to the friendship.. and other friends of mine, we just connect, we get it, we are okay with each others flaws…
And then you add a husband to your life, a man! Women and men have those obvious differences.. like he can pee any where and well, us women have a bit harder time doing so… mens body shapes are different, tones of voice… ya know, the obvious things. But with personalities amongst a man and woman are so different. Women tend to be more emotional, even those of you who can “hang with the boys” are more emotional than men. Neither are bad. Neither have less value. Both are important.
When a man and woman become husband and wife, they quickly realize how different each other are. All the flaws, quirkiness, and natural differences are exposed… very exposed. But on each part we need to love each other. Just like close friendships that you had before marriage… you chose to love them even through their flaws, you chose to laugh at their quirkiness and you choose to walk through life with them, closely knit together! And so, within a marriage the level of intimacy on all levels are much deeper, so the friendship between a husband and wife should be much deeper, the deepest, but why do the flaws and quirkiness become something that bothers us… why do we choose to get frustrated rather than love? Why don’t we choose not to embrace those quirky differences?
As I am learning more and more about my husband and more about who I am as his friend and wife, I am realizing that I have not loved, laughed, and walked through life with him well. I haven’t embraced him to the fullest, rather I have allowed my selfishness get in the way. Thats heartbreaking to me, cause I really love my husband. I really love who he is. I really love the quirkiness of Matt. He is a man who enjoys life, a man who wants to be happy, a man who desires to love well, a man who works hard, He loves me!…. He just really loves the life he has been given and I too often then not, allow things to frustrate me and that causes my husband not to enjoy life like he desires and I am praying that Jesus would give me joy, a desire to enjoy life more and not become frustrated so much… More laughter is needed!
Today I was at a store trying to find white mugs for a DIY project I have been wanting to do for a while (I will post when I am done). So I sent some pics to Matt to ask which ones he liked. Come to find out, the ones I thought he would like weren’t it. They were big mugs and so for sure he would like them, right? They would hold a lot of coffee, and since coffee is brewed every morning, why would he choose the smaller mugs. So at that point I could have chosen to be frustrated over the fact that he didn’t choose what I wanted, but rather I just giggled. I giggled cause he wanted a smaller mug (they tend to hold less but the handle is bigger, so for his hands he can hold them better). I chose not to allow that to frustrate me. Why did I in the past? I guess cause I am selfish and dumb. So after 6 years of marriage, I have learned that type of coffee cup was something that Matt had thought about at one point, but even though he wanted the smaller, he allowed me to choose the bigger (they are cooler anyways ;)). Point is that silly situation of a mug, was a learning opportunity. I learned something new about my husband and I learned to just laugh at the little difference between us. And I was loved cause he chose to allow me to choose the mugs I wanted. So I am super grateful that I am growing!
