Fight.
Every wife desires to be a wife who loves her husband well. She wants to serve him, encourage him, uplift him, honor him.. laugh with him, understand him… but to often we fail. At least I do.. often even. He is your man, the one that was given for you love forever, but that isn’t always easy. Well, at least I haven’t found it to be always easy. Why? Well, cause I am selfish. I put myself before him more often than not. I am sinner. I am a pride b$#@*. I am imperfect and well I fail him. I fail at loving him with understanding. I fail at having grace with him. I fail at respecting him as a man, leader and lover. But in turn he fails me as well. Yup our men are far from perfect and to expect him not to fail, well is crazy. So as you can see, a marriage is man and woman, both sinners, both desire our own desires, putting each other aside at times. A marriage is hard. A marriage isn’t just “I do” and the first kiss happens and smiles are made… a marriage is full of all that, but it is also full of sin. It reveals who you are, and who you are isn’t always pretty. A marriage can get pretty ugly at times, discouraging at times, less love in there at times… but at the end of the day, we have a choice to make. A choice to continue or not. I choose my husband to continue this life with. Both he and I are far from perfect, but again at the end of the day I choose him and I know he chooses me, all by the grace of God. Yup, God. He is the reason we can choose to continue. He is the reason we can choose to not run far away. He is the reason we can wake up and love again and be loved. He is the reason that a marriage can continue, continues to grow, continues to become a happier marriage. He is the reason.
Quitting on a marriage is a waste of time. It causes more pain. It causes brokenness, it causes division. It causes some to hate, some to become bitter, lonely, and hopeless. Quitting is saying screw you God, you aren’t good and this spouse you gave me, well you gave the wrong one and you quit on them too. Really? Come one. Marriage is hard, even that happy couple you see, they struggle, they want to run away sometimes, they yell, they say hateful things, they do things to hurt each other, but at the end of the day, they choose to continue, they fight for their spouse and they choose to love.
Praying that as you face your spouse, that you will choose to fight to love well and not to quit, but knowing you will fail, only to stand back up to love and be loved again!
This is who I fight for, to love, honor, serve, laugh with.. to go through this life with every day and I am grateful its HIM.
